K1 is thinking if should write about nai nai’s condition as it requires lots of courage to type. To make the story short, she is admitted to TTSH on the 4th day of CNY (Chinese calendar) and now it all depends on her willpower to survive. She is resilient as we thought might lose her a few times but she overcome the pneumonia battle.
Recently, K1 see this link (https://www.caring.com/articles/how-to-say-goodbye) at Carers SG facebook & adopt few of the lessons. Lesson #5: Keep talking even if you’re not sure if you’re being heard (K1 share with her last yr Dec overseas trip. Doc suggested as nai nai becomes weaker, we can still speak to her even if she closes her eyes as she may still be listening). Lesson #8: You don’t have to issue a formal farewell every time you leave the room (K1 tell her gd night & sweet dreams of the overseas stories that K1 tell her). Lesson #9: You can speak volumes without uttering a word (K1 sayang her forehead & her hands. Doc suggested to hold her hands whenever possible to let her know that someone is with her).
This morning, receive update that her condition has worsen over the weekend and the antibotics not working on her. Doc are now concentrating on letting nai nai as comfortable as possible and also get the palliative team involved. The word ‘palliative’ means her condition is very serious & tears keep rolling down K1 face. Luckily, mgr is understanding to allow K1 take 1/2 pm urgent leave to accompany nai nai. Doc from Palliative team advice us to be with nai nai whenever possible as they gave an estimate of 16 – 36 hours. They also warn that if the hospital makes a call, we may not make it on time to hospital. Doc is trying to see if the EOL single room is available and will transfer nai nai to that room at no additional cost once it is available. She is now in another ward & bed. Nai nai, jia you 🙂